Applying ‘Thank you’ & ‘Sorry’ in day to day life.
“It isn’t what you have in your pocket that makes you thankful, but what you have in your heart”
There is a common notion that ‘friendship needs no thank you’ & sorry’. These two words are mostly seen uttered in formal settings. Do you remember when is the last time you used these two words at home or among close people who you care about?
Small caring and helping actions done by others towards our growth, deserve a thank you, no matter what the setting and the frequency of the word is. The same goes in with using the word ‘sorry’. If you have knowingly or unknowingly hurt someone and its bothering you, then its time to say ‘sorry’ to that person. There are many occasions on which you may not realize that you have been unreasonably hurtful to someone close. If the person whom you have hurt, is expecting a ‘sorry’ from you then there will be an element of grudge in his/her communication towards you. If you are sharp on sensing about your unreasonable behavior then without a delay you need to say a sorry. But blindly using these two words have to be avoided. Just as one asserts one’s viewpoint with proper analysis, one has to accordingly first analyse the scenario well. For eg. there are a lot of emotional manipulators around us, who will make you feel guilty of your actions, which in turn will cause an emotional turmoil in you and thereby may pressurize you to say ‘sorry’.
Try not to leave an opportunity to say a genuine ‘thank you’ to people as it will sharpen the gratitude dimension of your personality. You will see that people would be more enthusiastic in offering you help just because you had earlier acknowledged their efforts promptly. We have compartmentalize people into friends, parents, close relatives, peers, colleagues or domestic helpers as per their roles associated with us, but the truth is that they all are basically humans, who crave for the basic feelings of appreciation and empathy. They too have self-esteem like we do. Self-esteem is the value one gives to oneself. This value towards self is largely derived from how people around us (especial whom we consider close) treat us. Knowing when and where to use the words, ‘thank you’ and ‘sorry’, will help you develop your social and emotional skills. Usually the most closest people are taken for granted, who actually are the ones who deserve our maximum gratitude & empathy.
Thanks giving day is celebrated in U.S and Canada during autumn. Its a very nice way to openly express one’s gratitude towards particular people who we consciously want to acknowledge. Even if years later, you realize the truth that someone was helping you anonymously or you were unreasonable while hurting someone, see to it that you express it before either of you bid goodbye from this world. There is no harm to adopt such a ‘Thanks Giving Day’ practise even in our respective cultures. Such open practices are good for one’s soul, both to the sender and the receiver of a ‘thank you’ or a ‘sorry’. But one has to be ‘genuine’ in expressing and receiving the two golden words which will help you establish a good rapport with others throughout your life.
Original Article written by -Shraddha Sankulkar (Psychologist/Founder-Director Mind Matterz (A Psychological Guidance Unit)
Small caring and helping actions done by others towards our growth, deserve a thank you, no matter what the setting and the frequency of the word is. The same goes in with using the word ‘sorry’. If you have knowingly or unknowingly hurt someone and its bothering you, then its time to say ‘sorry’ to that person. There are many occasions on which you may not realize that you have been unreasonably hurtful to someone close. If the person whom you have hurt, is expecting a ‘sorry’ from you then there will be an element of grudge in his/her communication towards you. If you are sharp on sensing about your unreasonable behavior then without a delay you need to say a sorry. But blindly using these two words have to be avoided. Just as one asserts one’s viewpoint with proper analysis, one has to accordingly first analyse the scenario well. For eg. there are a lot of emotional manipulators around us, who will make you feel guilty of your actions, which in turn will cause an emotional turmoil in you and thereby may pressurize you to say ‘sorry’.
Try not to leave an opportunity to say a genuine ‘thank you’ to people as it will sharpen the gratitude dimension of your personality. You will see that people would be more enthusiastic in offering you help just because you had earlier acknowledged their efforts promptly. We have compartmentalize people into friends, parents, close relatives, peers, colleagues or domestic helpers as per their roles associated with us, but the truth is that they all are basically humans, who crave for the basic feelings of appreciation and empathy. They too have self-esteem like we do. Self-esteem is the value one gives to oneself. This value towards self is largely derived from how people around us (especial whom we consider close) treat us. Knowing when and where to use the words, ‘thank you’ and ‘sorry’, will help you develop your social and emotional skills. Usually the most closest people are taken for granted, who actually are the ones who deserve our maximum gratitude & empathy.
Thanks giving day is celebrated in U.S and Canada during autumn. Its a very nice way to openly express one’s gratitude towards particular people who we consciously want to acknowledge. Even if years later, you realize the truth that someone was helping you anonymously or you were unreasonable while hurting someone, see to it that you express it before either of you bid goodbye from this world. There is no harm to adopt such a ‘Thanks Giving Day’ practise even in our respective cultures. Such open practices are good for one’s soul, both to the sender and the receiver of a ‘thank you’ or a ‘sorry’. But one has to be ‘genuine’ in expressing and receiving the two golden words which will help you establish a good rapport with others throughout your life.
Original Article written by -Shraddha Sankulkar (Psychologist/Founder-Director Mind Matterz (A Psychological Guidance Unit)
